Unfortunately that's one of the drawbacks of a turbo charger .... it needs to be cooled. But you dont need to sit in your car for 3 to 5 min after reaching your destination. Just make sure that a mile or two before your final stop the turbo is not under load. Try to coast it home. In other words dont drive it hard right before stopping and then shutting it down. This is especially true if you are travelling in hills and steep climbs when you have the turbo under load. When that turbo is humming at 10, 20, 30000 rpm (or whatever it is) and you shut off the oil supply to it .... well do the Math. Try to practice this behavior and make it routine every time and all the time.
So this makes the disabling of the auto start/stop very important if you are driving it hard. You cant/shouldnt come up with a situation that after driving hard you stop at a traffic light and have the engine shutoff. Most modern turbos have a turbo timer, where after a shutoff of the engine, the oil cooling pump still runs for a bit.
Personally i still practice the old routine of coasting home about a mile before shutting it down and not worry about it. I do it as a routine behavior now and dont even think about it. Its in my DNA now(no pun intended)!